First off, did you file your application with the USPTO, or with NZ's patent office? The advice you're being given (particularly BobRoberts' citing of the CFRs, but also the "required to help pro se applicants" stuff) is mostly about dealing with the USPTO, because that's where most of us live. I don't think I've ever seen a NZ patent attorney post here (one Aussie and a few people in Europe, but no Kiwis), and I have no idea whether other PTOs, including the NZ PTO, require their examiners to assist pro se applicants.
What you're asking for is, in effect, for someone to take on the liability for prosecuting your application (and presumably without any compensation for it, since you note that you've run out of money). Given the legal malpractice risks (i.e., the risk that you might sue everyone in sight, since things have already started to go wrong), well, personally, I wouldn't want to take on that risk.
Not to mention that you seem to be taking it for granted that you just need to narrow your claims in some way -- but to decide that, someone doesn't just have to look at your website, they have to read all of the references the examiner cited, as well as the examiner's argument, and analyze the references and the argument to see if they're valid.
"Should" you narrow your claims? That depends -- can you overcome the rejection in some other way? Can you look at the references that the examiner has cited and spot any ways in which those references don't apply, or can't be used together? If there's only one reference, are any elements of your claimed invention missing in the reference? For that matter, are the references even applicable -- did the examiner cite references that were filed after your provisional? Sometimes they screw up and look at the date of the nonprovisional instead.
"Where" to narrow your claims? Did the examiner reject all of your claims, or just the first? Can you combine some dependent claims into the first so that the combination doesn't exist in any of the references?
What you are looking to do is to mention in your (independent) claim(s) ONLY the "point of novelty". The less you put in (while still claiming that point of novelty), the better. Then use dependent claims to get as much breadth and depth as possible.
Hope this general overview is of some help. Perhaps you can find a new attorney who will handle the patent work in exchange for whatever he can make by suing your former patent attorneys.

(Probably won't work, but you never know!)